Haystack Registration open NOW until October 28 
Join a community built just for 2e adults —
where you can finally feel seen, supported, and inspired
“The Haystack is the safety refuge for 2e’s. It is an Oasis in a desert of understanding and acceptance and you don’t have to apologise for being there.”
– Nigel P.
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Julie Skolnick, M.A., J.D., Founder of With Understanding Comes Calm, LLC, and author of Gifted & Distractible is excited to bring you The Haystack, a community for 2e Adults!
If you are looking for a DEEPER UNDERSTANDING OF SELF, a way to make MEANINGFUL CONNECTIONS with others, and to learn TOOLS TO EMPOWER YOU, The Haystack Community is for you!
I get it! It’s hard to drop your guard and say what you’re thinking or share how you really feel, when you are thinking and feeling SO MUCH! When you do find that person – another “needle” – you feel better in your brain and your body! You can’t believe your fortune at being able to be your authentic you, that you are understood, appreciated, and even celebrated.
Enrich your experience with invaluable insights from renowned guest experts. Each month, thought leaders illuminate key 2e topics, offering new perspectives, strategies, and inspiration to support your growth.
All 2e “needles” gather LIVE in The Haystack to discuss the monthly theme in small breakout groups. Connect with others who understand your journey and recharge through these meaningful meetups.
Each month, members receive a curated collection of articles and resources aligned with our monthly theme. Explore practical tools, expert perspectives, and inspiring content designed to fuel your learning and momentum.
We gather LIVE again to dive deeper into the month’s theme, share insights, celebrate wins, and offer support to fellow Haystackers. It’s a space to reflect, connect, and grow together.
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Share wins, challenges, and insights with other 2e adults—anytime
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26+ Expert Webinars
Learn from top 2e specialists in work, life, and relationships
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Monthly Resources
Dive deeper into our theme with expert articles and resources
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Are you ready to thrive as your extraordinary self? Welcome to The Haystack, the ultimate membership community exclusively designed for 2e Adults like you! Here, it’s not just a group; it’s a close-knit fellowship of kindred spirits, a space where your uniqueness is celebrated and empowered.
Each month we will address relevant topics for 2e Adults. Some topics are hard, some are fun, but all address concepts and issues important to you.
All 2e “needles” gather LIVE in The Haystack to discuss the monthly theme in small breakout groups. Every second and fourth Tuesday at 2:00 - 3:00 PM ET, find your people and nourish your soul through our meaningful meetups. Whether you're sharing your victories or seeking understanding, these gatherings are your sanctuary for camaraderie and authentic connections.
Each month you’ll receive an article or blog addressing our monthly theme. Dive into the world of 2e with enlightening insights and discussions. Discover what it truly means to be twice exceptional and learn strategies for embracing your brilliance.
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Drop in at any time to pitch a question or topic, share something fabulous or frustrating, and receive feedback from other members. Our private discord channel allows ongoing conversation 24/7.
Don't worry if you just joined the Haystack, you will always have access to all past recorded and written materials. The Vault is meticulously curated to deepen your understanding of being twice exceptional. From nurturing meaningful relationships to amplifying confidence and mastering productivity, this vault is your go-to guide.
Enrich your experience with invaluable insights from renowned guest experts. Monthly, we're thrilled to introduce thought leaders who will illuminate various 2e topics, providing you with fresh perspectives and knowledge.
Every month we connect with renowned thought leaders to illuminate the most important topics to 2e Adults. Here are just some of the many experts we learn from in our monthly webinars:
Dr. Dan Peters is a psychologist, author, and co-founder of Summit Center. With over 25 years helping gifted and twice-exceptional children, he focuses on reducing worry, fear, and learning challenges like dyslexia and ADHD. He hosts the Parent Footprint Podcast and speaks internationally on parenting and supporting children to reach their full potential.
Emily Kircher-Morris is a counselor, educator, and advocate for giftedness across the lifespan. Founder of Unlimited Potential Counseling & Education Center, she provides therapy and resources for gifted and twice-exceptional individuals. A speaker and author, Emily empowers educators and families to nurture the strengths of gifted adults and children.
Dr. Joy Lawson Davis is an educator and author with over 40 years of experience in gifted education. A former Virginia State Specialist for K–12 gifted programs, she champions equity and cultural awareness in gifted services. Her acclaimed books, including Bright, Talented & Black, highlight best practices for diverse gifted learners worldwide.
Imi Lo is a psychotherapist and author with dual Master’s degrees in Mental Health and Buddhist Studies. She supports emotionally intense, gifted, and neurodivergent adults using trauma-informed and mindfulness-based approaches. Imi’s international work promotes mental health, self-awareness, and authentic living for sensitive and gifted individuals.
Dr. Edward Amend is a clinical psychologist at The Amend Group, providing evaluations and therapy for gifted, talented, and twice-exceptional youth and adults. His work focuses on the emotional, social, and educational needs of gifted individuals, helping families understand and support their strengths and challenges.
Linda Roggli is an ADHD coach, author, and speaker dedicated to supporting adults with ADHD. Founder of the GardenSpirit Guesthouse in Durham, NC, she blends creativity and humor to help others thrive. Her award-winning book Confessions of an ADHD Diva inspires women to embrace authenticity and live with joy and purpose.
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Julie Skolnick, M.A., J.D., founder of With Understanding Comes Calm LLC, has passionately guided thousands of parents of gifted and distractible children around the world, mentors twice exceptional adults, and advises educators and professionals on how to bring out the best and raise self-confidence in their twice-exceptional students and clients.
She is the author of the best selling book Gifted and Distractible, A practical, research-based guide that demystifies giftedness and learning differences in order to help twice exceptional children thrive.
She serves as secretary to the Maryland superintendent’s State Advisory Council for Gifted and Talented Students, and produces virtual conferences and other engagement opportunities for the twice exceptional community. Julie and her husband are parents of three twice exceptional children who keep them on their toes and uproariously laughing.
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Feel like you could use a bit more time to soak in the brilliance? No worries! Our members have the awesome perk of holding onto monthly recorded expert interviews and webinars. That's right, as long as you're part of The Haystack, you can relish the fantastic content at your own pace, whenever you want! 📺🍿
Inside, you’ll find resources designed to help you: 1. Understand your 2e profile from a strengths-based approach 2. Discover your strengths and passions 3. Navigate friendships, life, and emotions as a 2e adult 💪🛠️
Get ready to dive into a treasure trove of wisdom made just for you! As a member, you'll get your hands on a gorgeous PDF filled with handpicked Expert Resources for 2e Adults. And the best part? It's regularly updated to give you momentum on your journey! 📚🌟
Get ready to snag exciting deals and be the first in line for all the buzz! As part of The Haystack community you'll be treated to exclusive discounts and get the inside scoop on upcoming events. It's like having a backstage pass to all the fun! 🎉🎟️
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By joining The Haystack, you'll embark on a journey of self-discovery, understanding your unique strengths and challenges as a 2e Adult. Through expert resources and shared experiences, you'll gain profound insights that lead to self-acceptance and embracing your identity with pride.
Joining The Haystack isn't just about belonging to a community; it's about your personal evolution. With monthly themes that encompass every facet of your 2e life, you'll continually expand your knowledge, amplify your strengths, and tackle challenges head-on. The Haystack membership offers a transformative path to self-growth and empowerment, guiding you toward a life that truly reflects your remarkable identity.
Navigate the complexities of your 2e journey with purposeful tools. The Haystack provides you with targeted strategies for self care, boosted confidence, and holistic well-being. These practical skills will empower you to overcome obstacles and unlock your full potential.
The Haystack is a thriving community of 2e Adults who truly comprehend your journey. Through meaningful interactions, meetups, and discussions, you'll forge connections and find lasting friendships with a genuine support system that celebrates your triumphs and stays with you through challenges.
Find other “needles” in The Haystack community today.
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The Haystack is a monthly membership for 2e adults hosted by Julie Skolnick, MA, JD of With Understanding Comes Calm. It includes monthly themes pertinent to the community.
Each month members meet on the second and fourth Tuesday at 2:00-3:00 US EDT via unique zoom link for Q/A about the monthly topic and breakout rooms with other 2e adults for discussion.
On the first Tuesday of each month members receive a pre-recorded webinar or expert interview regarding the topic of the month.
On the third Tuesday of every month members receive an article and/or blog on the topic of the month.
Members receive Bonus material – usually an expert interview.
We open enrollment for a few weeks four times a year – September, December, March, and June.
If you decide to leave The Haystack you simply stop payment when you’re ready to leave.
You will have access to all pre-recordings and articles/blogs in The Haystack vault. You won’t, however, have access to the live Q/A and breakout rooms. We want members to feel they can speak their minds confidentially during those live meetings.
$57 a month (just under $15 a week!)
Understanding your twice exceptional self
Acknowledging and Addressing Loneliness
Professional Life – work and retirement
Freedom to be YOU – The role of Masking in 2e adult
The Importance of Laughter and Play
Organization and the 2e Mind
Family, Relationships, Expectations
Finding Neurodiversity Affirming Mental Health Support
Intensity
Highly Sensitive Minds
Multi Exceptionalities – Exploring Culture and Gender
Empowerment
New topics added every year
Please email Support@WithUnderstandingComesCalm.com
At The Haystack, we’re privileged to host a diverse range of experts who bring invaluable insights to our community. Our esteemed guest experts include:
Melanie Hayes, Otto Siegel, Gordon Smith, Linda Roggli, Eric Windhorst, Ed Amend, Nicole Tetreault, Imi Lo, Andre Solo, Joy Lawson Davis, PJ Sedillo, Sarah Wayland, and more to be announced.
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Month-to-month membership can be canceled at any time
*The yearly membership discount does not permit cancellation at any time, but cancellation is allowed after one year. Monthly memberships can be canceled anytime.*
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