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The Haystack

Julie Skolnick, M.A., J.D., Founder of With Understanding Comes Calm, LLC, and author of Gifted & Distractible is excited to bring you The Haystack, a community for 2e Adults! 

If you are looking for a DEEPER UNDERSTANDING OF SELF, a way to make MEANINGFUL CONNECTIONS with others, and to learn TOOLS TO EMPOWER YOU, The Haystack Community is for you! 

what you get

The Haystack community for 2e Adults includes:

Hear Your Personal Invitation From Julie...

Ever feel like finding a friend who actually GETS YOU - when you don't have to mask - is like looking for a NEEDLE IN A HAYSTACK?

I get it! It’s hard to drop your guard and say what you’re thinking or share how you really feel, when you are thinking and feeling SO MUCH!

When you do find that person – another “needle” – you feel better in your brain and your body! You can’t believe your fortune at being able to be your authentic you, that you are understood, appreciated, and even celebrated.

So…we’ve created The Haystack to gather 2e adult “needles.” Each month members receive:

  • Week 1: Recorded expert addressing our monthly theme
  • Week 2:  Live Q&A and breakout room discussion with fellow members (Meeting Time: Tuesdays at 2:00 – 3:00 PM ET)
  • Week 3: Articles and blogs addressing our monthly theme
  • Week 4: Live Q&A and breakout room discussion with fellow members (Meeting Time: Tuesdays at 2:00 – 3:00 PM ET)

The Haystack is a safe space where all 2e needles are welcomed! So...what are you waiting for? MEET ME IN THE HAYSTACK!

Registration occurs quarterly and is currently closed. Join the waitlist, and get notified when registration opens for June.

Registration is officially open NOW until June 18th. Grab your spot!

Are you ready to thrive as your extraordinary self? Welcome to The Haystack, the ultimate membership community exclusively designed for 2e Adults like you! Here, it’s not just a group; it’s a close-knit fellowship of kindred spirits, a space where your uniqueness is celebrated and empowered.

What The Haystack Community Offers:

🎉 Monthly Themes

Each month we will address relevant topics for 2e Adults. Some topics are hard, some are fun, but all address concepts and issues important to you.

🌟 Live Discussion Groups

All 2e “needles” gather LIVE in The Haystack to discuss the monthly theme in small breakout groups. Every second and fourth Tuesday at 2:00 - 3:00 PM ET, find your people and nourish your soul through our meaningful meetups. Whether you're sharing your victories or seeking understanding, these gatherings are your sanctuary for camaraderie and authentic connections.

🌱 Monthly Education

Each month you’ll receive an article or blog addressing our monthly theme. Dive into the world of 2e with enlightening insights and discussions. Discover what it truly means to be twice exceptional and learn strategies for embracing your brilliance.

💬 Ongoing Chat in Dedicated Discord Channel

Drop in at any time to pitch a question or topic, share something fabulous or frustrating, and receive feedback from other members. Our private discord channel allows ongoing conversation 24/7.

🔒 The 2e Vault

Don't worry if you just joined the Haystack, you will always have access to all past recorded and written materials. The Vault is meticulously curated to deepen your understanding of being twice exceptional. From nurturing meaningful relationships to amplifying confidence and mastering productivity, this vault is your go-to guide.

🎙️ Guest Experts

Enrich your experience with invaluable insights from renowned guest experts. Monthly, we're thrilled to introduce thought leaders who will illuminate various 2e topics, providing you with fresh perspectives and knowledge.

If this sounds like you...

  • True friends are hard to come by – peers don’t get you or they make you feel like you’re out of sync.
  • Intimate relationships are way too complicated and it feels like it’s more work than it’s worth.
  • People tell you you’re too much: too sensitive, too fast, too slow, too perfectionistic, too emotional, too much.
  • You wish your work/retirement was more meaningful, but you find yourself in a negative feedback loop.
  • It’s hard to meet yours and others’ expectations – you feel like you’re always trying to catch up.
  • People spend too much time focusing on challenges – they don’t seem to value your strengths and passions.

Then... meet me in The Haystack!

In The Haystack you’ll:

  • Find people who care about the things you care about.
  • Learn why some things are hard and others a breeze.
  • Gain perspective – on yourself, and others.
  • Spend time interacting – UNMASKED.
  • Share your strengths and passions with others who appreciate YOU. 

The 2e Vault: (Additional Membership Perks)

Recorded Webinars

Feel like you could use a bit more time to soak in the brilliance? No worries! Our members have the awesome perk of holding onto monthly recorded expert interviews and webinars. That's right, as long as you're part of The Haystack, you can relish the fantastic content at your own pace, whenever you want! 📺🍿

The 2e Adult Toolbox

Inside, you’ll find resources designed to help you: 1. Understand your 2e profile from a strengths-based approach 2. Discover your strengths and passions 3. Navigate friendships, life, and emotions as a 2e adult 💪🛠️

Ever Expanding Resource List

Get ready to dive into a treasure trove of wisdom made just for you! As a member, you'll get your hands on a gorgeous PDF filled with handpicked Expert Resources for 2e Adults. And the best part? It's regularly updated to give you momentum on your journey! 📚🌟

Discounts and Perks

Get ready to snag exciting deals and be the first in line for all the buzz! As part of The Haystack community you'll be treated to exclusive discounts and get the inside scoop on upcoming events. It's like having a backstage pass to all the fun! 🎉🎟️

Transformative Objectives of Joining The Haystack Membership

Nurture your self esteem

By joining The Haystack, you'll embark on a journey of self-discovery, understanding your unique strengths and challenges as a 2e Adult. Through expert resources and shared experiences, you'll gain profound insights that lead to self-acceptance and embracing your identity with pride.

Celebrate your uniqueness

Joining The Haystack isn't just about belonging to a community; it's about your personal evolution. With monthly themes that encompass every facet of your 2e life, you'll continually expand your knowledge, amplify your strengths, and tackle challenges head-on. The Haystack membership offers a transformative path to self-growth and empowerment, guiding you toward a life that truly reflects your remarkable identity.

Address your whole self

Navigate the complexities of your 2e journey with purposeful tools. The Haystack provides you with targeted strategies for self care, boosted confidence, and holistic well-being. These practical skills will empower you to overcome obstacles and unlock your full potential.

Cultivate Relationships

The Haystack is a thriving community of 2e Adults who truly comprehend your journey. Through meaningful interactions, meetups, and discussions, you'll forge connections and find lasting friendships with a genuine support system that celebrates your triumphs and stays with you through challenges.

Unlock Transformation, Forge Connections, and Grow With Us.

Find other “needles” in The Haystack community today.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ):

The Haystack is a monthly membership for 2e adults hosted by Julie Skolnick, MA, JD of With Understanding Comes Calm. It includes monthly themes pertinent to the community.

Each month members meet on the second and fourth Tuesday at 2:00-3:00 US EDT via unique zoom link for Q/A about the monthly topic and breakout rooms with other 2e adults for discussion. 

On the first Tuesday of each month members receive a pre-recorded webinar or expert interview regarding the topic of the month.
On the third Tuesday of every month members receive an article and/or blog on the topic of the month.

Members receive Bonus material – usually an expert interview.

We open enrollment for a few weeks four times a year – September, December, March, and June.

If you decide to leave The Haystack you simply stop payment when you’re ready to leave. 

You will have access to all pre-recordings and articles/blogs in The Haystack vault. You won’t, however, have access to the live Q/A and breakout rooms. We want members to feel they can speak their minds confidentially during those live meetings.

$47 a month (just under $12 a week!)

Understanding your twice exceptional self

Acknowledging and Addressing Loneliness

Professional Life – work and retirement

Freedom to be YOU – The role of Masking in 2e adult

The Importance of Laughter and Play

Organization and the 2e Mind

Family, Relationships, Expectations

Finding Neurodiversity Affirming Mental Health Support


Highly Sensitive Minds

Multi Exceptionalities – Exploring Culture and Gender


New topics added every year

Please email Support@WithUnderstandingComesCalm.com

At The Haystack, we’re privileged to host a diverse range of experts who bring invaluable insights to our community. Our esteemed guest experts include:

Melanie Hayes, Otto Siegel, Gordon Smith, Linda Roggli, Eric Windhorst, Ed Amend, Nicole Tetreault, Imi Lo, Andre Solo, Joy Lawson Davis, PJ Sedillo, Sarah Wayland, and more to be announced.


Meet Me In The Haystack - $47/mo

Registration is officially open NOW through June 18th. Grab your spot!

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